In Covey's words:
Quick fix is a mirage. Building and repairing relationships takes time. If you become impatient with the other person's apparent lack of response or his seeming ingratitude, you may make huge withdrawals and undo all the good you've done. "After all we've done for you, the sacrifices we've made, how can you be so ungrateful? We try to be nice and you act like this. I can't believe it!"
It's like reading out my thoughts exactly!
It takes so long to ruin some relationship or frienship - why would it take only a couple of days to fix it? Building of trust is the key - the more trust you build, the more you'll be forgiven for your small mistakes in a relationship or friendship. If there is no trust to begin with, even the slightest of mistakes are hugely amplified and remembered. There is no forgiveness. Self trust is also essential. Being accountable for decisions and the awareness that life will be full of ups and downs is extremely crucial for a long and satisfying life.
Couldn't help but think of Kramer's advice to Elaine (in Seinfeld):
Quick fix is a mirage. Building and repairing relationships takes time. If you become impatient with the other person's apparent lack of response or his seeming ingratitude, you may make huge withdrawals and undo all the good you've done. "After all we've done for you, the sacrifices we've made, how can you be so ungrateful? We try to be nice and you act like this. I can't believe it!"
It's like reading out my thoughts exactly!
It takes so long to ruin some relationship or frienship - why would it take only a couple of days to fix it? Building of trust is the key - the more trust you build, the more you'll be forgiven for your small mistakes in a relationship or friendship. If there is no trust to begin with, even the slightest of mistakes are hugely amplified and remembered. There is no forgiveness. Self trust is also essential. Being accountable for decisions and the awareness that life will be full of ups and downs is extremely crucial for a long and satisfying life.
Couldn't help but think of Kramer's advice to Elaine (in Seinfeld):
Kramer: "Now see the two of you need to work on trust... and then and only then will there be a free exchange of sex and discounts.. Cornerstones of a healthy relationship....and now if you would (taps twice on the door) excuse us. We need to get to bed."
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